“Do you have a countdown?” This is a question I’ve been getting a lot lately. I’ve been counting down the days to my retirement in a variety of ways since the beginning of the school year. I have used things like months and curriculum milestones but lately my countdown has changed as the reality of retiring at the end of the school year sets in. Here are some of my current countdowns:
1. 44 1/2 more teaching days – This one is a constant countdown now since the number of the school day is announced every morning.
2. Two months and 7 days.
3. One more math unit.
4. Two more Number Corner months.
5. One more social studies unit.
6. One more haircut.
7. Two more field trips.
8. Nine more Sunday nights.
9. ONE MORE SET OF REPORT CARDS!
10. Six more Formula 1 races and then we get to celebrate my retirement at the Canadian Grand Prix in Montreal!
My Three Positives in Memory of Tim
1. A weekend visit with my son and daughter-in-law.
2. I wrote every day during the month of March.
3. Two Writing Teachers has created a wonderfully supportive writing community.
If we were having coffee we’d be sitting on my porch swing. A favorite spot when you would visit. We’d have some homemade sticky buns with our coffee for your special day. I sent some to Tara and the kids hoping having one of your favorite treats would make the day a little easier.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you we celebrated your life in early December. You wouldn’t believe the crowd that gathered. The tribute ride by your biker friends on a cold December day was touching. The kids and Tara put together a wonderful display of your life. Your oldest used his skills to make a video collection of favorite memories set to the the song Forever Young by Rod Stewart. Your youngest shared words well beyond what anyone would expect a 16 year old to be able to share after losing his dad and your girl was right there by her mom’s side greeting everyone who came. The next day we gathered at the cidery to toast you.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you you fought an unbelievably hard fight against leukemia. I know you spent way more days in the hospital than anyone should have to. I know you did all you could to fight this insidious disease and I wish this hadn’t happened to our family.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you how much we have missed you in the four months since you left. There’s been Christmas, New Year’s, birthdays, anniversaries and just regular old days when you’ve been missed. It’s been hard for everyone. Family and friends have been there for Tara and the kids. We do what we can to try to ease the pain but sometimes I know we just can’t. My experiences with grief tell me it will get easier with time and how much time that takes will be different for everyone.
If we were having coffee I would tell you that Tara has been doing some of those things to the house the two of you planned. The windows have been replaced along with the flooring and the bathroom vanity. I haven’t seen it yet but the photos look great. She had to replace the dishwasher too though that one wasn’t planned. You would be so proud of her and I’m sure it wouldn’t surprise you that she has jumped right in doing what needs to be done. She loves her new job by the way and they have been really great to her.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you I miss your laugh and your dancing at family events. I would thank you for the way you supported Tara when she suddenly found herself alone and on her own when our mom died. You told me you would take care of her and you kept that promise. I would reassure you that we will all do whatever we can to support her and the kids now. I hope that brings you peace.
If we were having coffee I’d wish you a Happy Birthday dear Tim. We love and miss you.
My Three Positives in Memory of Tim
1. I was able to write this slice which has been weighing heavy on my heart all month.
I have to admit I am tired of the memes and articles claiming teacher self care will solve the teacher shortage. Self care will not solve this problem as there are so many things causing talented teachers to leave the profession or not even enter it in the first place right now. Recently, two fellow slicers pointed out some things I had written about were self care, so I started to reflect on what I do to take care of myself.
Here’s my list:
I get up early to have time to relax, drink my coffee and mentally prepare for the day.
I very rarely take any work home in the evening or on the weekends. (Report cards are an exception.)
I don’t know if this is an actual writing format but the Right Now I’m . . .format made me think of this.
Yesterday I celebrated my 59th birthday. It’s a day I’ve been thinking about since I was 30 years old. The year I turned 30 my mother turned 59. It was the last birthday she would celebrate. Next month my oldest will turn 30. The closer this birthday got the more I was reminded of how much time my own mother had left at my age. I had a wonderful day yesterday with texts and phone calls from family and friends near and far, social media birthday greetings, handmade cards from students and gifts and treats from colleagues. A video call with my sons and their wives topped off the day after we returned from dinner at a favorite restaurant.
Today has been a lazy but productive day if that’s possible. A recent security breech of our password manager program prompted the need for a new password manager so part of the day was spent getting that set up. I loath these kinds of activities but it was a necessary task. We also spent some time finalizing some plans for a summer trip with friends. Many decisions needed to made and there may still be more to come but we are content with the current plan. We still need to finalize plans for another summer trip but that’s been put on hold while I slice. Thankfully it’s a gray rainy day and staying in the house was the perfect plan for the day. I heard something about taxes too but I steer clear of that kind of activity. I’ll be putting on my new noise canceling headphones and picking up my knitting needles when that activity commences.
Tomorrow won’t be the end of the weekend for me as I took a personal day rather than attend the all day training on the new reading resource we will be using next year. It seemed like a waste of my time to attend the training as I’m retiring at the end of the year. I will need to grocery shop tomorrow since I opted to not leave the house today. I’ll have my weekly check in with friends at church and probably lunch at Panera before we tackle the grocery shopping. I look forward to not having that familiar feeling of dread that shows up around 8:00 p.m. on Sundays.
I just head, “Okay I need to go do the taxes now.” That’s my cue to put on the headphones and pick up the knitting needles!
An updated photo of my knitting project from my Frogging slice.
I like the beach, sunny days, summer, spring tulips, chocolate, flavored coffee, cooking with my husband, knitting, expensive yarn, handknit socks, knitted dishcloths, time with family, dogs, baking, cookie decorating, Formula 1, reading to children, and weekends at home.
I don’t like winter, snow, lima beans, March Madness, gray days, indoor recess, horror movies, dog hair on my pajamas, rushing out the door every morning, and anything coconut.
My Three Positives in Memory of Tim
1. A fun outing with coworkers to end the day.
2. I opened the sunroof on the way home.
3. I see green popping up where I planted tulip bulbs in the fall.
Teaching from an Empty Nest 